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i Watch – Education First – Transforming India

March 12, 2007

Dear Friends,

I am happy to share that the book of i watch: Transforming India” 2007 edition has been formulated  in a very concrete, simple and concise manner by a team of intellectuals through extensive research work in these focused areas .This book is available in 13 indian languages.  

Focus of ” i watch -Transforming India”:  

Human Resource , Education & Training: Holistic human development , education matrix of India, primary education & 100% functional literacy , Vocational education & training-the real winner for India, Advantage of enterprise skill development  & vocational education.

Employment Generation: HRD-Employment & Unemployment, Employment matrix of India, Employment generation thru’ VET, Employment generation through SME’s, Employemnt Generation implementation of VET.   

Economy & Enterprise: The real & virtual India, Poverty line & related data, How to plans for world markets? A chek list, Definition of Small medium enterprise, India must become an international Hub, Important of SMEs. China-India comparison chart, catch me if you can, comparision with selected countries.

Governance & Administration: the India you may not know, Transforming India: Agenda for change, Economic & business reform, Governance & administration of India, Good governance can transfer India into a superpower, Good governance + Effective administration = Zero corruption, World class governance-why & how India must do it.   

Edited, Published and Printed for i Watch by Krishan Khanna.   i Watch – Education 1st , www.wakeupcall.org 

Kindly contact me for complete information & details of i watch-Transformaing India book. 

Ajay Singh Niranjan

i Watch – Education First – Transforming India

Email :  ajay_uor (at) yahoo (dot) com

********************************************** Knowledge and ignorance are the two unborn ones. One is the ruler and the other, the ruled. Apart from these two, there is another who is also unborn and who is connected with the enjoyer and his enjoyment. And then there is the infinite self, the universal form, who is non-doer. When one knows this triad, one has known Brahman (cosmic consciousness).”- Upanishad

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Explore Your Brain : Right Brain vs. Left brain thinking

March 8, 2007

 ” The test of first rate of intelligence is the ability to hold to opposite idea in the mind at the same time and still retain the ability to fuction” – F.Scott Fitzgarald

Research on the brains has demonstrated that two different sides of the brain (“hemisphere”) are responsible for different mode of thinking. Both of these mode of thinking are required for uncovering the effective solution of the problem.

While most individual have a preference for one style and another, the real key is build the capacity for whole brain thinking in the organisation, where people are comfortable in one style or another, depending on the need of the situation. Building this capability is a key part of the innovative organisation.  

Complex  Questions: what is mind? Brain? Thinking?

From Wikipedia  : Mind refers to the collective aspects of intellect and consciousness which are manifest in some combination of thought, perception, emotion, will and imagination. 

The human brain is the most complex organ in the body. It controls the central nervous system (CNS), by way of the cranial nerves and spinal cord, the peripheral nervous system (PNS) and regulates virtually all human activity.Involuntary, or “lower,” actions, such as heart rate, respiration, and digestion, are unconsciously governed by the brain,specifically through the autonomic nervous system. Complex, or “higher,” mental activity, such as thought, reason, and abstraction, is consciously controlled.

The human brain is vast and complex. It contains some one hundred billion neurons, which are capable of electrical and chemical communication with tens of thousands of other nerve cells. Nerve cells in turn rely on some quadrillion synaptic connections for their communications. 

Thought or thinking is a mental process which allows beings to model the world, and so to deal with it effectively according to their goals, plans, ends and desires. Words referring to similar concepts and processes include cognition, sentience, consciousness, idea, and imagination. Thinking involves the deeply cereberal manipulation of information, as when we form concepts, engage in problem solving, reason and make decisions. Thinking is a higher cognitive function and the analysis of thinking processes is part of cognitive psychology.

The following table illustrates the differences between left-brain and right-brain thinking:

Left Brain Thinking   Right Brain Thinking
Logical
Sequential
Rational
Analytical
Objective
Looks at parts
Random
Intuitive
Holistic
Synthesizing
Subjective
Looks at wholes

 

Photo Source: http://www.extensor.co.uk/articles/leadership_brain/leadership_brain.html

from above table & picture , we can check & analysis about our thinking pattern. Where need more focus according to environment, conditions & requirement? 

Kindly read Left Vs. Right: Which Side Are You On? At brain.web-us.com which describe following processing of Brain.

  • Linear Vs. Holistic Processing
  • Logical Vs. Intuitive
  • Sequential Vs. Random Processing
  • Verbal Vs. Nonverbal Processing
  • Symbolic Vs. Concrete Processing
  • Reality-Based Vs. Fantasy-Oriented Processing

Definately , Sometime we need left brain thinking & some time right brain thinking and some times both thinking simultaneously for solution of complex problems. 

~AJAY SINGH NIRANJAN 

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Holistic Development – [ Integrate : SQ + EQ + IQ + PQ = True Knowledge]

March 4, 2007

Holistic Development – [ Integrate: SQ + EQ + IQ + PQ = True Knowledge ]

  A beautiful insight about PQ, IQ, EQ and SQ by Prof. Stephan R. Covey

Physical Intelligence: Wise nutrition, Consistence balance exercises Proper rest, relaxation, stress management and preventing. 

 Mental intelligent: Continuous, systematic, disciplined study and education Cultivation of self awareness, learning by teaching and doing. 

Emotional intelligent: Self awareness, Personal motivation, Self regulation, Empathy, Social skill.

Spiritual Intelligence: Integrity ( Character building ) ,Meaning ( Purpose of life ),Voice( Self Enlightenment and motivate to other )  .

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~© Ajay Singh Niranjan

What is Understanding?

February 16, 2007

The word “understand” is beautiful. When you are in meditation everything “stands under” you, you are far above it. That is the meaning of understanding. Everything is there far below, so you can see …..You have bird’s-eye view. You can see the whole from your altitude. Intellectual can not see it; it is on the same plane. 

Understanding happens only when the problem is on plane and you are on a higher plane. If you are functioning on the same plan as the problem, understanding is not possible. You will only misunderstand.  

Kindly link for understanding:  

  1. Story: Zen is Understanding Yourself 
  2. Know thyself – Understand yourself –True Being, Pure Consciousness and Bliss
  3. Vipassana – a Meditation Technique of Gautama Buddha  

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The 7 Problem-Solving Principles Behind the World’s First Flight

February 14, 2007

1. FORGING uses constructive conflict to uncover and validate new ideas and strategies. Like a blacksmith’s forge, ideas are subjected to the “heat” of discussion and the “blows” of contention until a practical solution begins to take shape. When the Wright brothers launched into one of their “spirited debates,” forging happened naturally.

2. TACKLE THE TYRANT is based on the idea that within each problem there is a potential “tyrant,” a subset of the problem that, if not resolved, will prevent the ultimate solution. By putting the tyrant first, costs are limited if a solution proves unachievable. Refuting prevailing assumptions, the Wright brothers identified control and balance as the “tyrant”—the primary obstacles to manned flight.

3. FIDDLING says new ideas and approaches can be created by tinkering with portions of a problem in an effort to understand, repair, or improve it. Fiddling, the art of making connections and contrasts, depends on both tactile and conceptual tinkering. The Wright brothers were inveterate tinkerers.

4. MIND-WARPING encourages flexing the mind, allowing it to consider possibilities beyond the borders of thought established (and limited) by policy, tradition, and personal experience. It is the ability to think “outside the box,” without abandoning the box. The Wright brothers gained fresh and pivotal insights into the problem of manned flight after observing a flight of buzzards.

5. RELENTLESS PREPARATION says that “forever learning”—learning as a lifelong passion-is essential to generating the information needed to solve problems. Forever learning draws a dotted line between the need to solve problems and the reservoir of ideas we possess to do so. Wilbur was a voracious reader and meticulous researcher; Orville was insatiably curious.

6. MEASURING TWICE says that the fastest and most efficient way to solve a problem is by being meticulous and methodical in your approach. The Wright brothers were scrupulous in planning the photograph of the first flight—a perfect picture that many simply consider a “lucky shot.”

7. FORCE MULTIPLICATION states that the output of a group of people (force) with a common purpose is increased exponentially (multiplied) by a seamless interdependence powered by five areas of team equity: trust, effort, profits, power, and honor. This principle is epitomized in the partnership of Wilbur and Orville Wright.

Adapted from THE WRIGHT WAY: 7 Problem-Solving Principles from the Wright Brothers That Can Make Your Business Soar by Mark Eppler (AMACOM)

Source: American Management Association

http://www.amanet.org/books/catalog/0814407978_Principles.htm

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Asking the Right Questions

February 13, 2007

Asking the Right Questions – Peter Senge

The best way to learn is to ask questions. Here are a few starters for diagnosing the strengths and weaknesses of your organization.

  • What are our unifying values? What have we stood for over time? The ability to provide context and meaning for the work people do is key.
  • How do you organize your time? Is it spent on what you say is important? If you want to know if you’re really adding value, look at your calendar.
  • Whom do you depend on? Your real work team is those people you count on to do your job — including support staff, suppliers, customers, direct reports, even regulators. Your performance depends on the quality of those relationships.
  • What are you being paid for? All leaders must understand what results they’re accountable for.
  • How well do you practice teamwork, empowerment, service, or whatever values you espouse? Credibility is the No. 1 issue for leaders. By taking an honest look at your own practices — and asking others to look at them — you’ll know where you stand.
  • How do you convey difficult issues? Learning requires an acceptance, by definition, that one doesn’t have all the answers. Your ability to discuss complex problems and develop solutions without making others defensive is a key to learning.

Source : http://www.leadertoleader.org/

Why “Blink” Matters: The Power of First Impressions

February 13, 2007

This is a very understandable article which is written by Susan M. Hearthfield on Malcolm Glad research book: Blink-The Power of Thinking without Thinking.

Kindly visit this article:

Why “Blink” Matters: The Power of First Impressions. at humanresource.about.com

Sharing some insight from this article:

According to Gladwell’s research, we think without thinking, we thin-slice whenever we “meet a new person or have to make sense of something quickly or encounter a novel situation.” He says, “Snap judgments are, first of all, enormously quick: they rely on the thinnest slices of experience … they are also unconscious.”

“We thin-slice because we have to, and we come to rely on that ability because there are lots of hidden fists out there, lots of situations where careful attention to the details of a very thin slice, even for no more than a second or two, can tell us an awful lot.”

Whenever we have to make sense of complicated situations or deal with lots of information quickly, we bring to bear all of our beliefs, attitudes, values, experiences, education and more on the situation. Then, we thin-slice the situation to comprehend it quickly. The implications of this concept have astonishing significance for our personal reactions to most situations.

It seems to me that this ability to think without thinking, to make snap decisions about situations and people in a “blink”, has significant implications for how we interview and hire staff.

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SWOT MATRIX of INDIA: Analysis of Indian Social- Economic- Political- Technological conditions.

January 31, 2007

Dear Friends,  

There are few questions about our complex & unique system of India. How we can change our system thinking? How we can make a synergetic triangle: Industry-GOI- Institution for co creation of knowledgeable resources for evolution of innovations. 

Root Causes – Why Plans are not execute at the bottom? Constrains – Where are missing link?

Strategy & tactics – What is the action plans? Methods-how these actions plans execute for achieving the end Goal.

Kindly download one page colored framework of SWOT MATRIX of INDIA. URL: syenrgetic-trinangle-industry-government-instituion.docsyenrgetic-trinangle-industry-government-instituion.doc  

SW0T   ANALYSIS:

                  Industry-GOVERNMENT -institution

 STRENGTHS 

  • Highly educated , skilled ,young, capable & dynamic  human resources
  • English speaking & analytical students
  • World class business-social-spiritual –political leader, Professor, scientist, Manager-Doctor-Engineer-Civil servants etc
  • Very rich in  Natural & Living resources
  • Biodiversity & Traditional knowledge base
  • Diversity vs. Ideas-Innovation-Integration
  • Powerful spiritual strength (yoga-Ayurvada-Healing-therapy services)
  • Geographical location (whole markets are shifting toward Asian nations)
  • India Strategic position at various platforms
  • Big democracy, Big market & free media
  • Range of emerging professional champions
  • IT & Software superpower

WEAKNESSES: 

  • Lack of trained & skill work force  
  • Small supply of specialize professional
  • Lack of spirits of entrepreneurship, patriotisms and leadership skill
  • Lack of effective & execution framework
  • Lack of Indian management models
  • Lack of transparency-Trust-Responsibility
  • Lack of learning habits & Team work spirit
  • Fear of sharing knowledge & taking risk
  • Thinking win-lose   lose-win   look-outside
  • Slow absorption of Innovation & change
  • Lack of Indian management models
  • Absence of greater technology impetus
  • Unawareness: Quality-Standardization
  • Lack of Emotional-Spiritual development
  • Rush of getting high marks not Development
  • Blindly respect anything taught by elders

THREATS (Internal & external): 

  • A feeling of unstable government
  • Self centered political leadership
  • Slow & Dysfunctional judiciary and corrupt law enforcers
  • Regulation, protection and restriction
  • Mechanistic -stable-Layered-complex system
  • Corruption, Ignorance & Complacency
  • High competitive & marketing forces
  • To patent Indian intellectual property by outsider (unawareness about own research)
  • Fast change Internet-information technology& new Inventions-Technology-Innovations
  • Diversity vs. Imbalance- clashes
  • Regional-Religion-caste-culture conflicts
  • Migration of all branch to software job
  • Job seeking mind sets, not job creator
  • Unnecessary social pressure on students
  • Excessive rich & powerful mindsets

 OPPORTUNITIES 

  • Big potential market in education Sector & emerging new market Segment in services (create it)   
  • General Agreement of trade on Services
  • Research & Development capability
  • Generate intellectual property
  • Resource Building capacity
  • Competition- cost – Quality service

  • Collaboration : win-win thinking
  • Hybrid solution–balancing & blending
  • Tourism, health sector, food processing
  • Rural economy development & social transformation ( PURA model )
  • Need  modernization of infrastructure , Library and laboratory
  • Internet institute network & e-Library
  • Councilors and student advisors

Key:
India has lots of weakness but this is a space of thinking (new Ideas or new perceptions), understand it as a space of opportunities and transform into strength.  

Note: Please send your suggestions, experiences & questions for improvement of this SWOT MATRIX of India. 

Ajay Singh Niranjan ( ajay_uor@yahoo.com)

Spiritual Intelligence & Leadership

January 27, 2007

Dear Friends,

What is the true nature of self ? True nature of self is well described in our timeless wisdom of ancient India and we are the leader of leaders in spiritual wisdom. just recall universal prayer: Gayatri Mantra. 

 “O supreme Lord! Thou art ever existence, ever conscious, ever blissful. We mediate on thy most adorable glory, may thou guide and inspire our intellectual, on the path of highest divinity! MAY WE BE ABLE TO DESCRIMINATE? BETWEEN TRUTH AND FALSEHOOD”. –Rig 3 .62 .10

Kindly visit the article. And try to explore your all intelligences for development of Intellectual.

Ajay Singh Niranjan (ajay_uor@yahoo.com )                

              Spiritual Intelligence & Leadership

By Cindy Wigglesworth

Research is finally validating what many of us knew all along – that there is more to great leaders than brains. What research is now validating is that great leaders need to use their hearts and souls, as well as their minds! But let’s begin at the beginning…

In 1905 Alfred Binet and Theodore Simon developed the first modern intelligence test. Since that time we have been debating what “intelligence” is, where it comes from, and how to develop it.

Our “Intelligence Quotient” or “IQ” is generally thought of as our linear, analytical intelligence. Initially it was expected that IQ would be a strong predictor of success in careers. In fact it has turned out to be a weak predictor of success. IQ appears to be related to minimum standards to enter a given a profession. But once you have chosen your career, what actually leads to success is far more complicated.

Daniel Goleman popularized the phrase “Emotional Intelligence” with the publication of his book by the same title in 1995. In his book, Goleman cites research at Bell Labs that examined star performers, and tried to determine what distinguished them from more average performers. It appeared that star performers had stronger relationship skills than average performers. Harvard Business Review published the results of the Bell Labs study in 1993. Business interest in the study of “Emotional Intelligence” or “EQ” began in earnest.

EQ is actually a large collection of skills. Goleman has recently grouped these skills into 4 quadrants as shown below1.

1. SELF AWARENESS

Emotional self-awareness
Accurate self-assessment
Self-confidence

2. OTHER AWARENESS

Empathy
Organizational Awareness
Service Orientation

3. SELF MANAGEMENT

Self-Control
Trustworthiness
Conscientiousness
Adaptability
Achievement Orientation
Initiative

4. SOCIAL SKILLS

Teamwork & Collaboration
Developing Others
Influence
Communication
Leadership
Conflict Management

There is a fascinating relationship among these quadrants. Research is showing that EQ begins in the Self Awareness quadrant. The degree to which we are self-aware literally limits our ability to be aware of others, or to manage ourselves. The last skills to develop are our Social Skills, being dependent on the other 3 quadrants. Self-awareness is dependent on listening to feedback. So a willingness to truly hear others is a prerequisite for high EQ.

It is interesting that Socrates gave the advice “Know Thyself” approximately 2400 years ago. The historical Buddha (roughly 2500 years ago) made the study of the mind (profound self-knowledge) such an elevated practice that it became a major world religion.

So what is the link to Spiritual Intelligence? Dana Zohar, a quantum physicist, gave a lecture at the Science and Consciousness conference in Albuquerque, New Mexico in April 2001. She was working on a new book on Spiritual Intelligence (or “SQ”), and at that time listed 9 characteristics of SQ. The first of Zohar’s points directly echoes the first quadrant of EQ – Self Awareness but goes beyond it to a sense of connection to the universe.

Spiritual Intelligence, according to Zohar, is:

1. Self-Awareness … you know who you really are and you know that you are connected with the whole universe.

2. Vision & Values Led – or Idealism. Children naturally want to serve, and so do we. Vision and values led is definitive of our humanity.

3. The Capacity to Face and USE Adversity…owning our mistakes and adversity and using pain and tragedy to learn

4. To be Holistic: seeing the connections between things. Being open to and interested in EVERYTHING.

5. Diversity…thriving in and celebrating diversity. I look at you and see what is different in you and I say “Thank God for that!”

6. Field Independence (Courage)…a term from psychology that means the courage not to adapt, to be independent.

7. The Tendency to Ask WHY? Questions are infinite. In Quantum Physics questions CREATE reality.

8. The Ability to Re-Frame…put things into a larger context of meaning.

9. Spontaneity. This is NOT acting on a whim…it comes from the same Latin roots as RESPONSE and RESPONSIBILITY. It is not conditioned by fear. It is appropriately “responsive to” the world.

Jim Collins became famous in the world of business with the publication of his first book, “Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies” (HarperCollins, 1994) co-authored with James Porras. In it they described their in-depth research and their conclusions regarding 18 companies that were unique in their reputation in their industry, their resilience through hard times and their financial success over 50+ years. The central conclusion: truly great companies are Visionary and Values driven. This directly echoes Dr. Zohar’s 2nd characteristic of SQ.

In his latest book, “Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don’t,” (HarperCollins 2001) Jim Collins researched 11 companies who made the transition from being good companies to being “great” companies on par with the companies in “Built to Last”. A key finding was that each company had what he calls “Level 5 Leadership” (see www.jimcollins.com for more information). As I read about Level 5 leaders I realized that they seemed to demonstrate most or all of the characteristics described as “SQ” by Zohar. In addition, they showed a profound personal humility and a powerful faith that they and their company would prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties.

Self-awareness and cultivating inner strength (or faith) has a solid grounding in all of the major spiritual traditions. Jesus went into the wilderness to meditate and to hear the voice of the infinite creator, as did Abraham, Moses and Mohammed. Buddhists and Hindus practice meditation for these purposes as well.

The implications for leadership are clear. High IQ doesn’t guarantee a good leader. High EQ has been correlated with success. But does it alone create greatness? Sustained and recognized greatness, even in the tough world of Corporate America, is obtained by something deeper. If a corporate leader is willing to deeply know herself and her place in the universe, she can reach the graduate school of SQ. With SQ comes the ultimate success – obtaining company success in such a way that customers, employees and society all benefit. And after creating a great company, the high SQ person sincerely deflects all praise onto the “wonderful people of this organization.”

What if EQ and SQ skills became part of the curriculum for all leaders? With solid analysis such as Jim Collins’ leading the way, perhaps that day will soon come.

1  Daniel Goleman, lecture given at September 1999 Emotional Intelligence Conference,
Chicago, ILSource: http://www.innerworkspublishing.com 

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“Know the Atma (Soul) as the lord and the master of the chariot, which is the body. The intellectual you should know as the charioteer. The mind should be known as (merely) the rein. The one whose mind is not harnessed properly, who’s is devoid of proper knowledge and wisdom, his sense organs go beyond the control of the intellect as vicious horse go beyond the control of charioteer”- Kathopnishad

7 ways to improve your social skills

January 27, 2007

In today’s world, social skills at work are as essential as hard skills and business etiquette.Not everyone, however, is endowed with good social skills. If you happen to fall in this category, do not worry. Social skills can be developed with a little practice and they will go a long way in boosting your career.

 iPractise taking instructions

This is easier said than done. Most of us think we already know what the other person is trying to say. Secondly, we may be preoccupied with other thoughts when our boss is instructing us on how to go about a certain task.

As a result, we may forget important details and make mistakes that could cost someone their job. Remember these points:

~ Listen carefully for things said and implied.
~ Clarify.
~ Understand what has been told to you.
~ Acknowledge that you have understood.
~ Reconfirm instructions by quickly summarizing what you have understood.

iiPractise explaining a problem to your supervisor/ boss

Do you feel butterflies in your stomach the moment you encounter a problem and need to involve your boss? Do you worry that s/he might think you are incompetent to handle it yourself? 

These feelings are quite justified. However, you still need to explain the problem to your boss. The secret lies in the term ‘explain’ and not ‘complain’.  To explain effectively, pay attention to:

 ~ The volume of your voice and tone. It should not be too soft, loud or screechy. ~ Be respectful.~ Keep your emotions in check. Be calm. You may be flustered by the problem; however, you don’t need to let your boss know that. ~ Remember to include all the facts of the problem. Try to find most of the answers yourself before approaching your boss. ~ Offer a solution if you can. Your boss will appreciate your initiative.

 iiiPractise asking for help

There are times at work when we are so overwhelmed by the things that need be done that we get all worked up and stressed out. We still do not ask for help, for fear that we might be perceived as incompetent. However, when you have a task at hand that must be completed and you know you cannot do it alone, you have to be humble enough to ask for help.

Identify people at work who handle a particular task better than anyone else and request them to help you if they have the time. They may be happy to help. Also, remember:

 ~ No man is an island. We all need people and people need us. 
~ Two heads are better than one and, yes, four hands are better than two.
~ It is nice to be important but it is more important to be nice. Help others; they, in turn, will help you

~ Be gracious when you accept or refuse help. This will enhance your chances of building a strong support system on which you can depend when you need help.

 ivPractise accepting feedback

It is natural for us to become defensive when we hear anything negative about ourselves. However, have you considered it might be just as difficult for the person giving the feedback to be candid?

Besides, it is possible for others to see things about you that you may not even aware of.

 ~ Appreciate the fact that someone has taken the risk of giving you feedback. ~ Be open to new ideas and new ways of thinking. ~ Don’t take criticism personally because, even though it is about you, it is still the other person’s perception; his or her views need not necessarily be the ‘real’ you. ~ Feel free to accept or reject all or any part of the feedback without feeling obliged to explain your choice.

 vPractise giving constructive criticism

The word criticism spells doom for some. It need not be that way. There are two types of criticisms — constructive and destructive. All of us have been at the receiving end of these types of criticism at some point in our lives.

It depends on what you are criticising in a person and the purpose of the criticism. If the objective of criticising is to demean and insult a person, it would be destructive criticism. Such criticism is best ignored.

Do remember, the situations that bring about the need to criticise can become sensitive and volatile. It is easy for the person criticising, as well as the recipient of the criticism, to overreact and start accusing each other.

Giving constructive criticism and seeing that it is well received is a fine art. Things to remember:

 ~ Stay focused. Don’t confuse the person with the problem.
~ Keep tempers down.
~ Use a suggestive approach rather than a dismissive one. ~ Reiterate that the person is good but the problem could be handled differently. ~ Be sincere, honest and caring while giving constructive criticism. ~ Express your faith in the person and his/ her ability to successfully implement and reap the benefits of the suggestions given.

viPractise receiving compliments

Many of us are especially wary or shy when someone compliments us. Why? Do we think we don’t deserve  compliments? That we are not worthy of them? Or is it plain modesty? Whatever it is, it is time to get over it. We need to understand that accepting compliments is not self-indulgence. So:

 ~ Don’t feel embarrassed and brush it off.~ Never counter it with something negative about yourself.~ Don’t be arrogant; accept the compliment graciously.~ Smile and thank the person for the compliment. Express genuine happiness.

 viiPractise giving complimentsI have very often heard people saying, “She is excellent at her work but, if we tell her that, it might go to her head.”

This may not always be the case. It depends on how one is complimented. There is a delicate line between flattery and genuinely complimenting someone.

If you keep these suggestions in mind, you can easily compliment someone without sounding fake:

 ~ Use simple language. Smile and look into the person’s eyes while complimenting him/ her. It sounds more genuine this way.~ Using filmi dialogues and a lot of actions could make it look like your aim is to flatter, not compliment.  ~ Modulate your voice to match the expression of admiration on your face.~ Don’t laugh or giggle while complimenting someone. It could sound like you are being sarcastic.

Finally, remember a good social network will help you at work.

You need social skills to find a job and to keep one. So, if social skills do not come easily to you, it will be well worth your time to pinpoint your weaknesses and work on them.

                                         – by Anita D’Souza (source: Rediff.com)